All good deeds are not good

This is an open letter to the URCSA Wellington Presbytery

25^th February 2019

Chairperson & members

Brothers and Sisters

URCSA Wellington Presbytery

Greetings in the name of my Creator and Saviour.

In life I’ve learned not all good deeds are good and that some can cause more harm than good. Allow me to from the onset state I could not care two flies what you as Presbytery do or don’t do, as my God and I have a solid healthy relationship.

I’ve received numerous messages though, from LGBTQI young people within the Presbytery.

It firstly takes courage for any person to type a message to reach out. Secondly no cry for help should just be ignored. It is with the above background that I’m directing this communique to you.

In an open letter to the church in October 2016, myself and three fellow URCSA-members, wrote: “As members of URCA we are concerned at the churches prophetic voice towards LGBTQI congregants and community.”

We further asked: “The church in love and the spirit of the Belhar Confession not to let LGBTQI-members suffer any further.”

Prior to the above I wrote in an opinion piece: “Apart from the conservative view the church will always hold, you cannot help to ask yourself why it takes the church – who preach love – to show love. The answer is that the church must act church orderly, within ecumenical rules.”

As per my social media accounts I initially thought the panel discussion the Presbytery is planning for Thursday is something good. Having viewed the poster of the panel discussion I am deeply offended, insulted and ashamed.

I take offence in the use of the term “homoseksualisme”. In no formal or informal documentation of URCSA is this term used. It also has a negative connotation, that was used some years ago as part of hate-speech. The term itself and the use thereof creates the impression that the organisers and thus the Presbytery, and one can interpret the panel (unless a correction is made by them) have a preconceived opinion that homosexuality is wrong.

I’ve previously asked the numerous (waste of time) URCSA Commissions how many of the panel members are gay/lesbian or have immediate family who is?

If none, my interpretation is that your panel will share textbook experience.

Following the tragic events at 13:30 on Saturday 8^th October 2016 at the 7th General Synod of Uniting Reformed Church in Southern Africa, one of the members of the first URCSA Homosexuality Task Team, made the following remark: “URCSA has no testicular fortitude in leading the church on the LGBTQ-matter and therefore finds all kind of excuses for not pronouncing on it”.

Friends in Christ allow me with due respect to have the testicular fortitude to tell you that your approach is unconsidered; disrespectful; offensive; just plain wrong.

You are proving the stories of Angelo, Theo, Carlton, Ashwin, Astrid, Belinda, Lindsey, Victor and many others will thus never be told or heard.

If you ignore everything above, take this to heart: ill-advised actions have led to suicide. It is often not what is said but what not and how not. Many of you will never grasp the pressure and depression LGBTQI-persons sit with, just viewing your ill-advised poster. As Christian my plea is let's stop homophobia and not contribute to it. 

Be bold, be brave, be leaders.

You friend in Christ

Earl September

“Ons voel soos Daniël in die leeukuil”

Die Verenigende Gereformeerde Kerk in Suider-Afrika (VGKSA) ontmoet hierdie week in Benoni, vir haar Sinodesitting. Op die tafel is die verslag oor homoseksualiteit.

As lidmate van die VGKSA, is ons bekommerd oor die kerk se profetiese stem aan Lesbiese, Gay, Biseksuele en Trans-gender (LGBT)  gemeentelede en gemeenskap. Die afgelope elf-jaar het die kerk drie Algemene Sinodesittings gehad waartydens dié kwessie bespreek was. Die besluit van 2005 oor homoseksualiteit, was hoofsaaklik aangebring deur Abe Pieterse wie deur die kerk legitimasie geweier is, omdat hy eerlik was oor sy seksuele oriëntasie. 

Die besluite van 2005 het gevra na ‘n teologiese studie oor homoseksualiteit. By die Sinode van 2008 was die verslag terug verwys na gemeentes. Vier jaar later, was daar geen  vordering nie, maar was op ‘n tweede studie besluit. Dit wys daarop, dat daar groot ongelukkigheid is oor die teologiese studie van 2008, wat deur prominente VGKSA teoloë saamgestel was.  Die uitgangspunt van hierdie verslag is dat die seksualiteit van gay persone aanvaar moet word. 

As lidmate van die VGKSA vra ons die kerk in liefde om in die gees van die Belydenis van Belhar LGBT lidmate nie verder te laat ly nie. Ons pleit vir eenheid! Herhaaldelik in debatte van homoseksualiteit word Bybelverse voorgehou om te diskrimineer. Die 2005 besluit, dat gelowiges hieroor in liefde moet praat en verdraagsaamheid aan LGBT moet bewys, is ‘n verfynde  institusionele vorm van diskriminasie. Die kerk se onwilligheid om die saak te bespreek op alle vlakke is gedompel in heteroseksisme gevoed deur homofobie, kultuur en die mite dat homoseksualiteit ‘n Westerse probleem is wat in Afrika posgevat het. 

Die Bybel is teen promiskuïteit en nie teen selfdegeslag-verhoudings nie. Sodom was verwoes, deur seksuele die stadsmanne se misdryf. Gasvryheid as goddelike en antieke deug was nie aan die gaste bewys nie.  Die Israeliete van ouds het hulself nie as heteroseksueel beskou nie.  Die Levitiese wette was ingestel om kultiese reinheid te handhaaf. Penetrasie deur ‘n man in ‘n ander man was gesien as vermenging van geslagsrolle, omdat binne die raamwerk van voortplanting en Adam as hoof van Eva, die mag van die man tot verval sal kom. In die Nuwe Testament is prostitusie en pedofilie onaanvaarbaar netsoos vandag. Ons lidmate van die VGKSA is daarvan oortuig dat die verstaan van die Drie-eenheid die voorbeeld is vir menslike verhoudinge en nie noodwendig die verhoudings van mag en manlikheid soos deur die antieke kulturele waardes vasgevang is in die Bybel nie. Seksualiteit vir ons ‘n gawe van God vir elke mens wie Hy kunstig geskep het.  

As lidmate van die VGKSA vra ons die kerk in liefde om in die gees van die Belydenis van Belhar LGBT lidmate nie verder te laat ly nie. Ons pleit vir versoening! Talle lidmate (en selfs predikante) lewe in vrees omdat die kerk geen duidelikheid het rondom menslike seksualiteit nie. Diegene wie hulself onderdruk, lewe nie net in vrees nie, maar het ‘n verwronge selfbeeld, menswaardigheid van broosheid en ‘n verwarde spiritualiteit wat nie binne die gemeente kan uitgeleef word nie. Die opgestane Here het versoening vir alle mense gebring, insluitend LGBT persone met hul seksualiteit.  Om versoen te wees met jou seksualiteit maak ook versoening met alle ander persone moontlik. Die Franse Filosoof Paul Ricouer in sy boek The Course of Recognition (2005), praat van wedersydse erkenning as geskenk en dankbaarheid. LGBT persone se seksualiteit wat as studie stuk en sonde beskou word kan alleenlik verstaan word as dit erken word en beskou word as gawe. 

Die doop en Nagmaal praktyke is volle bewys van inklusiewe mag van God. Die VGKSA handhaaf ‘n proses van onderskeiding om by studie wat vir teologiese studies aanmeld te hoor of hulle geroep is. Studente word gelegitimeer en ordineer omdat hulle die Kuratorium (kommissie van teologiese opvoeding) oortuig van hul geroepenheid. Dit druis teen die wil van God om nie LGBT persone toegang tot die bediening te gee. Ons glo, dat VGKSA die LGBT persone se verbintenisse as huwelik moet in seën.  Die Belydenis van Belhar leer ons “dat enige leer wat sodanige gedwonge skeiding vanuit die evangelie wil legitimeer en dit nie wil waag op die pad van gehoorsaamheid en versoening nie, maar uit vooroordeel,  vrees, selfsug en ongeloof die versoenende krag van die evangelie byvoorbaat verloën, ideologie en dwaalleer is.”   

As lidmate van die VGKSA vra ons die kerk in liefde om in die gees van die Belydenis van Belhar LGBT lidmate nie verder te laat ly nie. Ons pleit vir geregtigheid! Die wêreld, kontinent en ons land dink telkens na oor menslike seksualiteit. Ons is die Here dankbaar, vir ons konstitusionele demokrasie en grondwet wat LGBT regte beskerm. Die kontinent van Afrika waar so baie LGBT persone vermoor, verkrag en vermink word daagliks het weereens die profetiese stem van die Kerk van die Here Jesus Christus nodig. Presies dertig jaar gelede, was die Belydenis van Belhar aanvaar op die Sinode van destydse Sendingkerk. Gelowiges het opgestaan teen alle vorme van onreg, omdat hulle die mooiheid van geregtigheid in hulle  oë van geloof gesien het naamlik “dat die kerk daarom mense in enige vorm van lyding en nood moet bystaan, wat onder andere ook inhou dat die kerk sal getuig en stry teen enige vorm van ongeregtigheid sodat die reg aanrol soos watergolwe, en geregtigheid soos ’n standhoudende stroom;”

Ons bid saam die gebed van dominee Jan Metler, wat hy voor die aanvaarding van Belydenis van Belhar in 1986 gebid het: 

“Ons voel soos Daniël in die leeukuil, want eensklaps het die uur vir ons aangebreek. Vir hierdie geloofsdaad van die sendingkerk sal ons volle verantwoordelikheid moet aanvaar. Ons staan hier weerloos  en breekbaar  omdat ons besef dat ons so maklik in die navolging van die man van Nasaret kan seerkry. Ons wil met ons klein geloof op U wag om ons die pad te wys, wat ons moet gaan.” (Uit die Burger: 27 September 1986). 
  
Onderteken deur: 
Abe Pieterse
Hanzline R. Davids 
Earl September
Veonna Goliath

Are we all equal before the cross

Thou shall not judge. Not only a verse but also a saying, you have either heard or said. How ironic though that it is the church and religious leaders who preach God alone can judge, then do exactly what you and I are warned about.

Last week the Anglican Church rejected a proposal to bless couples in same-sex relationships.

The DRC/NGK last month decided to recall a synod decision that was put on hold after appeals were received. This comes after members of the church threatened with a court case, as the church acted outside of their own rules regarding the appeal. It has almost been a month now and still no implementation took place.

This week all eyes will be on the Uniting Reformed Church, who will again consider a report from a task team. The church had three task teams and been doing studies for 12 years. The church composed a comprehensive report, under the leadership of prof. Allan Boesak and this was accepted in 2005 as guideline. The very same Boesak in 2008 resigned from all positions in the church because of the discriminating attitude towards gays and lesbians, from the church that is meant to be a safe haven.

How ironic is it not that the decision by the church comes days after the controversial American pastor Steven Anderson was banned from entering our country and promote his hate speech. Anderson amongst other things said after the Orlando nightclub shooting “it is good, there are 49 lesser gays” and that “gays should all be killed”.

In the week of the Steven Anderson events the church and the voice of the men and women who are meant to spread the love of God, was silent.

Apart from the conservative view the church will always hold, you cannot help to ask yourself why it takes the church – who preach love – to show love. The answer is that the church must act church orderly, within ecumenical rules.

When it comes to the gay topic though, the church contradicts herself on many points.

That is the first mistake the church does, to discriminate by excluding lesbians, bisexuals and transgender-persons.

The church might have legitimate reasons why they dragging the issue. But in the church that preach everyone is equal in the eyes of God, terms like “they” and “us” are used.

How are we then all equal before the cross?

Long gone are the days that Bible verses were used when referring to “them” and those. Those who still make use of Bible verse have probably not recently read the bible.

It is this year [2016] a decade that South Africa became the fifth country in the world and first in the Southern hemisphere to recognise same-sex relationships. This in itself is a huge achievement for the LGBT-community when acting president Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka signed the Civil Union bill into law on 29 November 2006.

While we have the law, there is not a lot of support from the one safe haven in our country – the church.

Many will say sexual orientation is a choice. Unless I bumped my head as a baby I cannot imagine how any person would decide to be exposed to criticism, humiliation, ridicule and discrimination.

A few months ago a reverends was extremely critical towards gays on Facebook. I asked him if he ever made time to talk to a gay person and ask how that person feels and if he would decide to be humiliated every day. I then asked that he first look at home before he criticises others.
What I did not do is out his son.

Before more studies are done, like LGBT-members are some kind of experiment, our religious leaders should learn from this: time has come to drop your title and have a conversation with their brothers and sisters.

• Afrikaans version appeared in Paarl Post of Thursday 6 October 2016